Almost exactly one month ago…trouble began brewing. First my parents beloved dog Dula passed away after a nite of non stop seizures. Then less than 3 days later mother had her second total shoulder replacement that included donor bicep and multiple releases of bone spurs from her muscles and a whole new rotator cuff….ugh.. (Word from the surgeon is that his intern fainted during the surgery, a video has been made for teaching purposes and this was a surgery never done before in BC)
Then it got really fun…
24 hours after her surgery, dad collapsed in their garage at their home in West Bank. Mother discharged herself a week early from her post op suite in Vernon hospital and some how managed to get herself to Kelowna General Emergency where the organic dude had been taken by ambulance.
Turns out the dudes legs don’t wanna work. It took a week of testing but he has been diagnosed with a chronic form of Guillain Barre Syndrome.
Over the last 4 weeks my mother has managed somehow to still be by his side.
I arrived a few days ago to finally lay my eyes on both of them and do whatever I can do to show them both some love.
My hope is that they some how become a unified force. That my father sees he needs to love my mother as unconditionally as she loves him and that they both somehow become strong enough to help themselves help each other.
My marriage is my perfect. I always believed that if one partner thought of the other before herself and vice versa…You each would always feel safe, honoured and cherished.
I think this is going to be a dance he is going to have to learn the steps to. It can’t be anything but scary as hell to not know what your future will be. But I want his first thoughts to be how he can somehow support her, show love to her and make her feel more than he ever made her feel before all of this.
This is could be a wonderful new journey in being a more authentic self for him. Or not. The ball is in his court and everyone is watching.
I believe he will see that there is a lot going on outside himself and will want to help be a part of the next chapter in their new forever story.
I believe he will wake up tomorrow and tomorrow and every tomorrow and ask her if she will dance with him again.